Dear Once Bitten, Twice Shy,
I think it’s safe to say that we have never fully cleaned out the remnants from our previous relationships; there are layers upon layers. But, there’s good news! Especially if you are willing to peek inside to take a look at what you’ve packed. It is my experience, and have seen with many clients, that the more you look within, the lighter the topics become and the quicker the bounce back!
There are so many perspectives that we can look at here, but let’s talk perspective. That “baggage” is all yours, so why not love it? Why not see it for what it is? Accept that you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Laugh when it bubbles up, talk to someone when you can’t, and simply love it. It is yours, just like your perspective.
I can’t help but feel that when we refer to our relationship history as “baggage” we are setting a tone. It is my unshakable belief that our perspective is our choice. Now, don’t get me wrong… there is this thing called a core fracture wound that is undeniably the unfinished business that we bring into a relationship. There’s more on the good old core fracture wound here, but that aside, this thing called perspective is a powerful asset that we have complete control over.