Resilience is just that; it’s the process of regaining our emotional footing in times when it is hard as heck to do so. Resilience is all about how you move forward and what you chose to believe and strive to be along the way. And therein lies the quest… actually hearing what your head is saying. There are stories and limiting beliefs that automatically play, that we simply roll with and let guide us. But, when we stop and question our thoughts and beliefs, we can shift everything. If what we hear sounds something like, “I just can’t do this”, “I have too much baggage”, “I will never bounce back from this”, or, “I can’t do this”, these statements are all un true, yet we may believe them to our core and therefore, continue to live just that way… in fear. Resilience is looking inward and seeing the dark spots, setting them free and forgiving yourself. I get this sounds far easier than it is. But, isn’t looking at, taking ownership of, and forgiving yourself far less work than carrying around that satchel of heavy darkness? No one knows it’s there… just you. It’s my belief that we see our dark spots as “failures”. I believe that “failures” are opportunities for great learning and shifting for the next time that lesson shows up. As Brene Brown says, “it’s a matter of grit”. It takes a lot of grit to look in the mirror, own our shit, and choose a better path forward.
I am going to take a wild guess and assume that if you look back on your life to date, you may just see a whole lot of resilience that you yourself have drummed up.