This is a great question, so thank you. Here’s the thing… yes, there is a need to overcome past wounds and heal them. There’s also a need to understand where this pattern of hurt came from and to accept that while it was imposed on you, you have the ability to alter it. There is also a need to know that abandonment does not define you as “damaged”; what’s most important is how you carry forward. The deepest work is in knowing that no one can ever truly abandon you, because you will never abandon yourself. When you live in fear of being abandoned or rejected, you are putting your emotional destiny in others’ hands.
Abandonment is tricky because it typically stems from trauma or loss, and is triggered so easily, especially while dating and within intimate relationships.