I often hear about the quest for work/life balance, and I can’t help but feel it is all about perspective. Perspective is a topic that comes up frequently in my coaching practice, and my belief is that it is a choice.
To reflect on your own perspective, I challenge you to ask yourself a number of questions: Am I happy? Do I love what I do, day-in and day-out? Do I get up with a bounce in my step and feel rewarded at work and in life? Do I play? Do I spend time connecting with family? Do I love my partner and enjoy him or her?
If you are not sleeping or eating well, or if you are edgy and grumbly with the people that you live and work with, I would dig a little deeper to see what it is that is leaving you feeling imbalanced.
There are ways to “trim the fat” at work and home by implementing processes that set you up for success to achieve a better balance. This may be the creation of boundaries or self imposed rules. For example, when you walk in the door after a work day, is there space to put the work brain on a temporary pause? Tell your self that you are unplugging for a specific amount of time, you can even set a timer. Tomorrow’s to-do’s will be there tomorrow. The brain likes structure and clarity, and sometimes giving ourselves permission is all we need.
It boils down to a fairly simple rule: If something is not working, or you don’t like it, change it. If you are not willing to change it, accepting it will give you space to see that just maybe your life is in a balance that indeed does work for you.
We all have a different scale and sometimes it helps to change our perspective to see and believe that our existing work/life balance is working for us. Being content is unusual; we are often programmed to see the negative and to constantly seek more, but we can decide that it’s perfectly beautiful to be content in the lives that we’ve designed for ourselves.