I love, love, love this question, so thank you! Out of the gate, and to me, self-love means that we never criticize ourselves for anything. It is holding the belief that everyone is doing the best they can, including ourselves. It is when our actions match our words and we show up for ourselves. It means we dig in, own our shit, learn that vulnerability is beautiful, and wholeheartedly appreciate our head, heart, and body.
Self-love means that we look within and start to hear our thoughts, and question their truth. It means that we are our biggest cheerleaders; that we learn from our “face-down” moments; that we love exactly who we are; that we embrace what we feel. We hold the belief that we are in the right place, doing the best that we can do. It means that we accept and believe that we are enough. It means that we surround ourselves with words, music, activities, and people that fill us up. It is believing we are whole on our own. It also means that we work at replacing our negative self-defeating thoughts with self-loving words of encouragement… over and over again.
In a nutshell, the essence of self-love is knowing you and loving all of it. There are always parts of ourselves that we are not fond of (notice the language I use). There will always be moments we wish we could redo, but I am going to venture a guess and say that these “less than desirable moments” helped shape us. Self-love means that no matter where we are at, or where we are looking to land, we support, encourage, and cheer for ourselves along the way … like we would for a close friend, life partner, child, or colleague. We so often and easily give kindness, support, and encouragement to the people we love, why not be this for the most important person – YOU! You are stuck with you every single day … what might it look like if you were to walk through your day with encouragement, support, and tenderness playing in your head?
Yes you can.