If you choose to not want to feel this sadness, then you are automatically going to feel anger. The two dance very closely together. They love to tango! Allowing the anger to take over is ignoring the truth of the matter. If you sit in anger you will eventually need to come out of it. And at that point you will still need to experience the sadness that’s been lying at bay. It will be waiting for you. And unfortunately you will also have left some carnage along the way. So now you need to face the sadness and start the mending. So it seems that embracing the anger and avoiding the sadness is a negative make work project.
Give it a try next time you’re faced with disappointment, heartbreak, or loss. Stop. Breath. Listen to your heart, listen to your thoughts, listen to your gut and then let it all out. In whatever way works for you. A heart pounding run with mother nature, pouring your heart out on paper, smashing a dish or two, chopping some wood, talking it through with a friend, crying your face off, yelling, screaming, dancing … you catch my drift.
And at the end of the day you will no longer be pissed off. You just might find yourself residing in self-pride for taking the courageous step to face the heart of the matter. Now that trumps anger any day!