We’ve all been here. An unexpected death, a tragic loss, divorce, infidelity … all solid reasons to place you smack dab in the middle of pain, sadness and heartache. And it’s here where you choose to wallow, to get angry or take the learnings as they come. This moment is your moment to make a choice, and your options are pretty clear …
Option A: to wallow
Option B: be angry
Option C: start to heal the pain
You’re in the driver’s seat. You choose your action and desired outcome. What do you want? Do you want to wallow in sadness? Do you want to spread your anger around to others? Sitting stuck in sadness or embracing anger is stressful on our heart, our body and our relationships.
Love yourself enough to change this pattern … love yourself enough to move through this pain. No one will debate the fact that loss, on any level, hurts like hell. That loss leaves you in disbelief, it leaves you questioning, it can leave you crushed and collapsed on the floor.
And only you can pick you up. Only you can pull up your socks. Only you can decide to look towards the other side of the pain. Stop. Breath. Listen to your heart. Be sad. Get mad. And then look in the mirror. What do you see? Look beyond your beautiful face … look into those eyes. Be honest. Be true. What’s in there? Shame? Untruths? Regret? Disappointment? Denial? Acknowledge this darkness. You’ve made choices along the way that have placed you here for a reason.