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March 10, 2024

Acceptance: It’s a super power

Do you ever wonder why some things in life feel elusive or why it can be challenging to bounce back from life’s unexpected, and often, less than ideal moments? What if I told you that there is a way to navigate life’s curveballs a little better?
When life hands us a challenge, I can’t help but feel that we get to choose how we perceive it, how we let it affect us, and how we handle it. This doesn’t mean that we are void of sadness, frustration, anger, or less than ideal moments. But why is it when we sleep on something, we can come to a fresh perspective? Whether this is simply a form of self-regulation or a session with a journal and a good sleep, we seem able to come to a different, less resistant perspective. A perspective that is more accepting …
Resistance is like swimming against the current—it’s exhausting. It’s that voice in our head that says, “This isn’t how it’s supposed to be,” when things don’t go according to plan. Resistance can look like pointing a finger, finding a reason not to, delaying, straight-up avoiding, and unnecessarily defending. It may be the paused to-do list or maybe even a strained relationship. Suffice it to say, resistance can be a dream crusher. Acceptance, on the other hand, is the complete opposite.
Acceptance goes with the flow. Acceptance feels like possibility. It is a trust in self and the pursuit of new opportunities. It is contentment and an acknowledgment of expectations. It accepts grief, it sees the wins in the struggle, it is a self-loving kind of accountability that is ultimately calming. Embracing acceptance feels to me like a big warm hug when you need it the most. To put it simply, it can be a more peaceful way to walk through life.
When I started digging into resistance, I was surprised how present it was for me. I found it to be an automatic response and thought process. So I turned up the volume on how I responded to anything outside of my routine. Every night, when my head hit the pillow, I thought through my day and took note of where I may have resisted. I did this every night (except for the occasional fall asleep before completing) until I started to see the shift. When we truly pay attention to our responses/thoughts, we can start to adjust our response/thought in the moment, but not until we see.
When we choose acceptance, I can’t help but feel it gives us an advantage … and I don’t know about you, but I’ll take all the help I can get with this beautiful, bumpy thing called life. 🙂
And not to worry. Accepting isn’t a get-out-of-jail-free card. Often when we try to tell ourselves that we accept something that we know we don’t accept, it can initiate a shift. Sounds like a win win, no?

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